Yesterday I saw a video making it’s debut into the social network system, and it is soon to be viral, I am sure. It is posted on a faith oriented website and as the speaker opened his mouth to begin building up women, my stomach immediately dropped:
Here is the script of what this man says:
You are beautiful. You are smart. You are funny. You are kind. You are unique. You are worthy of love and affection. You are never too much and you are always enough. You are precious. You are a diamond, a rose, a pearl, the most stunning of all God’s creation. You are worth more than you could ever imagine.
Worth more than the numbers on a scale, the hair product you use, or the shoes you wear. More than how many girls wish they were you or how many guys wish they had you. More than the price tags on your clothes or the percentage at the top of your math test, or even the number of followers you have on twitter.
Your worth surpasses all earthly things because in the eyes of the Lord God, you are loved. And you are worth dying for.
Regardless of who you think you are. Whether you are a model in a magazine or you model pottery with grandma. Whether you are on the hot list or the not list. Whether you are head cheerleader or a high school drop out. Whether you are miss popular or you have never had anyone you have called a friend. Whether you love yourself and love your life or you can’t stand to look in the mirror and you feel like everything in your life is falling apart. Whether you are such a winner or you feel like the world’s biggest failure, regardless of who you think you are, the reality is that you deserve someone who would give up their life for you because you are powerful and strong and capable. Read about the women in the Bible. Esther, Ruth, Martha, Mary. These women changed the world forever. And inside of you, each and every one of you is a woman with that same power and that same strength and that same world changing capability, and your responsibility is to find that woman and to set that woman free. This is who you are. And any voices in your mind that try and tell you differently are from the enemy. And the next time you hear them, this is what you say, you say “Nuh uh, not me Satan, I am a daughter of the living God: cherished, loved, and adored above all things by the creator of all things for the glory of Him who is greater than all things. I am awesome.”
And please, don’t you forget it.
Women. Please. Do not buy into the lies.
Why? Because the premise is fundamentally flawed. Life, meaning and purpose is not about you. It is about God. It is all about God. If you already believe all of these things about yourself, you are proud and deep in sin. God alone should satisfy you, not confidence in yourself and in your abilities to “change the world”. If you have no self esteem and think “woe is me” because you have no ability to change the world, you are in sin for lack of faith in God for His ability to work through you. Either way, to look unto yourself for purpose, beauty, satisfaction, confidence, whatever – that is sin.
The Bible makes it extremely clear that in and of ourselves we are sinful, we are wicked, we are dead in our trespasses and hostile to God (John 8.44, Rom 3.10, Eph 2.1, Rom 8.7). We are in desperate need of a savior! But God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish (as we all deserve) but should have everlasting life (John 3.16).
Our confidence is not in ourselves. Our confidence is in Jesus Christ. Alone (Heb 4.16). Apart from Christ, I can do nothing (John 15.5). Apart from Christ, I can only sin (Rom 14.23).
The only statement of relative truth benefit that this man makes is “I am a daughter of the living God: cherished, loved, and adored above all things by the creator of all things for the glory of Him who is greater than all things.” But even in this, we must beware of the pride expressed therein: we are not loved above all things. We are loved as part of the bride of Christ, the body for which He died on the cross. Yes, this is lavish, unmerited, godly, unfathomable, agape love which we cannot comprehend – but I am not #1 in His eyes. He exists primarily for His own glory. And saving us and sanctifying us brings Him glory (Is 42.6-8). Collectively. We are each a part of the body. I am not God’s entire focus. You are not the apple of God’s eye. We, together, as a corporate body of believers, are His bride.
Esther, Ruth, Mary and Martha did not change the world. God changed the world through Esther, Ruth, Mary and Martha. It is most certainly not our responsibility to find the Esther inside of us, our responsibility is to love God fully. With all of our hearts, with all of our souls and and with all of our might (Deut 6.5, Matt 22.37).
God might use you to change the world. He might not. He might send you home to your family to speak of His greatness with your immediate relatives like the demoniac at Gerasenes. This man had been possessed for years, and Jesus set him free. You probably remember the story; Jesus cast the demons into the pigs and they all ran off of a cliff and drowned in the sea. The man wanted to follow Jesus as a disciple, and Jesus sent him home:
“Go home to your people and report to them what great things the Lord has done for you, and how He had mercy on you.”
– Mark 5.19
Whatever God’s plan for our lives is, it is our responsibility to serve Him, love Him and trust Him. We must look at and to Him, not ourselves. It is only in and by Christ that we can approach the throne of grace (Heb 4.16). Not because I am beautiful, or smart, or precious, or whatever else this man spoke to an empty auditorium. Let us not build ourselves up for who we are, who we think we are, or who we want others to think we are. Look to God. Find your satisfaction, fulfillment and confidence in the blood of Jesus Christ. Alone.
“Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.”
– Prov 31.30
I am not awesome. You are probably not awesome either. But that’s OK, because Jesus is. And that is all that matters.